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5. The Conqueror: A Line to Cross. Men are prob lem-solvers. How many men have had their wives tell them they did not want them to solve their problems but to shut up and listen? I know mine has. A lot! Likewise, how many wives have complained that their husbands pursued them while dating but then moved on to focus on conquering the next career or achievement once the ring was on their finger? Both are examples of a man’s inherent desire to tackle and conquer problems. We see this design in Genesis (2:15) when God cre ated man in the wilderness but then moved him into the garden to “subdue” it. From day one, God gave man a role that involved conquest. Conclusion The five roles are inherently ingrained in the hearts of men. Man’s masculinity is a gift from God to the world, not a curse. When a man gets it, everyone wins. In this article, I propose that more significant forces are at play than cultural norms, glass ceilings, and gender inequality. While those dynamics can explain some of these statistical disparities, I have seen these ingrained dif ferences play out over and over in the families and lives of the thousands of men I have worked with over the years. Harrison Butker’s speech touched on an uncomfort able truth. Women cannot do it all… and asking them to is hurting the world. Men have a role and a job that is God-given and noble. Telling them otherwise causes the problems we see today in families, the Church, and the culture at large. ✠

2 The Oxford pocket dictionary of current English. Oxford University Press. Encyclopedia.com. https://www. encyclopedia.com/science-and-technology/computers and-electrical-engineering/computers-and-computing/ attribute. 3 The consequences of fatherlessness. National Center for Fathering (NCF). https://fathers.com/the-consequences-of fatherlessness/. 4 U.S. Census Bureau. (2021, November 22). America’s families and living arrangements: 2020. Census.gov. https://www. census.gov/data/tables/2020/demo/families/cps-2020.html. 5 National Center for Education Statistics. (2022). Undergraduate enrollment. U.S. Department of Education, Institute of Education Sciences. https://nces.ed.gov/fastfacts/display. asp?id=98#:~:text=. 6 Construction worker demographics and statistics (2025): Number of construction workers in the US. (2025, January 8). Zippia. https://www.zippia.com/construction-worker-jobs/ demographics/. 7 Soldier demographics and statistics (2025): Number of soldiers in the US. (2025, January 8). Zippia. https://www.zippia.com/ soldier-jobs/demographics/. 8 Fire fighter demographics and statistic s (2025): Number of fire fighters in the US. (2025, January 8). Zippia. https://www. zippia.com/fire-fighter-jobs/demographics/. 9 Police officer demographics and statistics (2025): Number of police officers in the US. (2025, January 8). Zippia. https:// www.zippia.com/police-officer-jobs/demographics/. 10 Fry, R., Aragao, C., Hurst, K., & Parker, K. (2023, April 13). In a growing share of U.S. marriages, husbands and wives earn about the same. Pew Research Center. https://www.pewre search.org/social-trends/2023/04/13/in-a-growing-share-of-u s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same/. 11 National Archives and Records Administration. (n.d.). Vietnam War U.S. military fatal casualty statistics: Electronic records reference report. National Archives and Records Administration. https://www.archives.gov/ research/military/vietnam-war/ casualty-statistics. 12 Defense Manpower Data Center, Defense casualty analysis system , April 20, 2022. https://dcas.dmdc.osd.mil/dcas/app/ conflictCasualties. 13 How many people died on the Titanic? History in Charts.

JIM RAMOS is the USA TODAY and Evangelical Christian Publishers Association best-selling author of his most recent book, DIALED IN: Reaching Your Full Capacity as A Man of God. He is also a speaker and the founder of Men in the Arena, a ministry focused on equipping men to honor God in

the leadership of their families, churches, and communities. Called “a pioneer of digital men’s ministry,” Jim leads an army of nearly half a million men on social media. He guides men weekly through the Men in the Arena Podcast, Spotify’s #1 podcast for Christian men and the top 75 of all Christian podcasts on iTunes. Jim loves to hunt with his three adult sons and listen to men share their stories over a Café Ameri cano with a splash of heavy cream. He lives in McMinnville, Oregon, with Shanna, his flight attendant bride of more than 32 years. Endnotes 1 Seldon, A.I. (2023, May 15). The crisis of modern masculinity: What it means “to be a man.” My Site. https://www. theobserverumd.org/post/the-crisis-of-modern-masculinity what-it-means-to-be-a-man.

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