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Make Connections We still talk about the “heart” as the place where our emotions live. None of us think that the beating organ in our chests is really what makes us happy or sad, angry or amused—and yet we say things like:

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“My heart broke.” (When we mean, “I feel sad.”) “My heart leapt.” (“I was suddenly happy.”) “You’ll be in my heart forever.” (“I’ll always love you.)

“He has a heart of stone.” (“He has no sympathy for others.”) “She’s soft-hearted.” (“She has a lot of sympathy for others.”) “My heart was heavy.” (“I was sad.”) “Eat your heart out!” (“Wish for something you’ll never get!”) “I poured out my heart to her.” (“I expressed my feelings to her in words.”) “I believe it from the bottom of my heart.” (“I am emotionally com- mitted to this belief.”) “My heart is set on going.” (“I feel stubborn about my decision to go.”) “I had a change of heart.” (“I feel differently about something from what I did before.”) When we use these f igures of speech, we don’t stop to think what we’re saying. We know what we mean . But phrases like these show that we still are thinking of our emotions as coming from some mysterious place inside us, rather than from our brains and bodies, as scientists now believe.

the feelings of the body. Psychologists and scientists today know that emotions actually take place in our bodies, especially in our brains, but a lot of us still tend to think of these feelings as though they’re happening in a different sort of reality from either our bod- ies or the outside world. We often speak of emotional health as

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