2017 National Coming Out Day Book - Final v2

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eing open and honest about things like sexual orientation and gender identity can be challenging and, in certain situations, potentially dangerous. Coming out was one of the most difficult and emotionally draining things I have experienced. I remember the day back in 1998 that I realized I was gay. While sitting in my social studies class, I thought to myself, “Mr. P. is really cute. He's a good looking guy.” I also remember thinking to myself, “That's normal, right?” I struggled with these feelings. None of my classmates expressed similar feelings towards the same sex. Nearly 20 years later, the memory of that moment is still with me. Despite being terrified and conflicted, I told my parents not long after I experienced those feelings. Both of my parents were confused and upset, but not condemning. After years of battling depression and suicide attempts, I accepted my sexuality. I came out again at 19. My second coming out was easier, but still difficult. The support I received from my parents, sister, cousin, and those around me helped me fully accept myself. After recently speaking to my mother, she expressed the importance of educating parents, because education is key to understanding and acceptance.

Todd A. Reazor

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