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Hear Ye! Hear Ye! “What did you say” – “Say it again please”

Throughout history, spiritual and religious leaders as well as artists and social advocates have encouraged us to strengthen our innate ability to both hear and to listen attentively. Personally, this reminds me of Simon and Garfunkel’s call to listen to the “sound of silence”: And in the naked light I saw

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Ten thousand people, maybe more People talking without speaking People hearing without listening People writing songs that voices never share And no one dared Disturb the sound of silence

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Hearing is a physiological and involuntary act; listening is something different. Listening means focusing the mind to register what the sound waves are conveying through the ear. In Hebrew, the word sh’miat comes from the root shma , to hear. Haozen is the Hebrew word for ear and what we have is “a listening ear.” I believe that attentively listening, lies at the very heart of relationship building. From my readings of various rabbis and other Jewish scholars*, listening means that we are open to the other person, that we respect them, and that their perceptions and feelings matter to us. We give them permission to be honest, even if this means making ourselves vulnerable in so doing. A good parent listens to their child. A good employer listens to his or her workers. A good company listens to its customers or clients. A good leader listens to those he or she leads. Listening does not mean agreeing but it does mean caring. Some of the obstacles that prevent us from being attentive, really listening to others, could be simply a lack of concentration; the other person is there, but where are we? Maybe we are somewhere else in our own minds. A more prevalent and destructive obstacle is lacking humility. Arrogance is a huge obstacle to learning from others and prevents us from truly hearing the needs of others. Arrogance will often prevent us from listening when we do not like what we hear, when the message coming to our ears is to change our behavior or outlook, or when the message is that we have hurt another. We know how difficult it is to truly listen to our spouse or partner or friend when the message is that we have caused emotional pain Impatience is another obstacle to attentive listening. Listening requires the patience to hear each word in sequence and only after many words have been heard can we make an accurate assessment of the meaning of the message. Listening requires the consistent effort to allow the picture to slowly take focus. If you want to be a good listener, never makes quick judgments. Delay judgement until things are clear. Finally, there are obstacles to listening that are beyond our control. For those of us who do not hear well, use of assisted hearing technology to amplify sound is necessary to provide the opportunity to have a “listening ear” to what others are saying. We are very gratified that TAE now provides that opportunity. During the recent remediation and refurbishing of our campus, we installed a state-of-the-art hearing loop Continues on page 4

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Temple Adat Elohim 2420 East Hillcrest Drive Thousand Oaks, CA 91362 A Reform Jewish synagogue, affiliated with the Union for Reform Judaism. It is published monthly.


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