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A
BACHELOR'S
CUPBOARD
Bachelor
Etiquette
Innate
good
breeding,
the
other
Is
acquired
by
careful
study
and
a
close
observance
of
the
forms
of
conduct
that
at
the
moment
are
en
regie.
"
He
Is
gentll,"
says
Chaucer,
"
who
does
gentll
deeds."
And
It
has
been
proven
that
habit
Is
second
nature.
Courtesy,
conciliation,
kindliness,
forbear-
ance,
which
are
the
essence
of
politeness,
w^ere
taught
by
St.
Paul,
who
was
the
very
model
of
a gen-
tleman.
Society
has
agreed,
here
and
abroad,
upon
certain
conventions
which
have
through
countless
gen-
erations
resolved
themselves
Into
a
code
—
a decalogue
of
good
behavior.
The
present
social
code
In
America
is
patterned
largely
after
usages
In
favor
among
the
English
upper
classes,
although
occasions
may
arise
In
which
a
man
Is
a
law
unto
himself.
Daniel
Webster
once
said,
after
a
visit
In
London,
''
the
rule
of
polite-
ness
there
Is
to
be
quiet,
act
naturally,
take
no
airs,
and
make
no
bustle.
This
perfect
breeding
has
cost
a
great
deal
of
drill."
Bonaparte
studied
deportment
with
Talma,
a
great
French
actor,
and
his
court
was
as
carefully
drilled
in
etiquette
as
was
his
army
in
mil-
itary
tactics.
"
Good
manners
Inspired
by
good
principles,
prompted
by
goodfellowship,
polished
by good
form,
w^ill
admit
a
man
to
good
society
anyw^here,"
says
Mrs.
Burton
Harrison,
who
is
one
of
the
highest
authori-
ties
on
etiquette.
The
cultured
manner
of
to-day
Is
simple,
cordial,
and
free
from
all
affectation.
As
It
Is
assumed
that
the
bachelor
of
to-day
Is
well
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